We’re getting close to the three year mark. It’s a mere nine days away. Anniversaries are always there in the back of your mind after you lose someone. Sometimes they loom large and other times they simply lurk in the corners, but they are always there somewhere, waiting to be recognized. This year has been…

As time went on, I got over that. I’m still partnerless, but right now, I have zero desire whatsoever to date anyone. Relationships take a lot of work. They also take a lot of time. My life is crazy and busy and messy. Adding someone else to that crazy, busy mess would just make it…

I’m currently sitting alone in the church, soaking up the silence after a phenomenal night of ministry. If you don’t know, VBS is my jam. I’ve been doing it for, well, what seems like forever. At least 15 years. Probably more but who’s counting? I love VBS. It’s the highlight of my summer. My year,…

You know that really annoying chirp smoke detectors make when they’re not working? Well, the one in my boys’ room has been doing it for a couple days. Replacing the battery didn’t help. So tonight, when we got home from baseball, I got a small stool and a screwdriver and I replaced that stupid thing…

In a conversation with an acquaintance who had also lost a spouse way to early, it was mentioned that widows often remember very little, if anything, from the first year. I’ve found that to be both true and false. Some things I remember with laser focus. The ER. Crying when I went the first time…