There are benefits to grieving aloud. That sounds funny but it’s true. I’ve been very public with my struggles and that’s actually been one of the most helpful things for me in this process. It’s not for everyone but for me it’s been a major part of the healing. By putting myself out there I’ve…

Vance was the best coach I ever saw. I know that when people die sometimes we embellish a little (or a lot) and make them out to be more than they were. This is not one of those times. Vance really was an amazing coach. Over the years he must have coached more than 30…

People react to the grieving in weird ways. Some are smothering, not knowing when to just back off. They usually have good intentions and I honestly haven’t encountered very many of them. I did get cornered the other day at one of the kids’ events and was stuck for what seemed to be forever hearing…

Trying hard to focus on the good we had, not all that he will miss. Vance was the best dad. He worked hard so I could stay home with the kids. I got so much more time with them because of that. And when he could, he joined us. He was a dad that was…

I thought that I could wear mascara yesterday. Yesterday was the home opener for our high school football team. My nephew plays and I wanted to go support him. So all day I planned and prepared myself to be  around that many people. I figured I could do it. After all I have lots of…